Mother’s Day

I have been a Mother for almost 12 years, and I still cannot get used to being included in a day for Mother’s. I find it strange, I cannot explain it really, but it is a nice way to bring families together, and an excuse to receive the most adorable handmade gifts from your children.

As a daughter, it is also a strange day, I don’t have a great relationship with my own Mum. It isn’t something I can really talk about, it is difficult and actually painful, it is something I struggle with a lot. Having an imperfect relationship with a parent is often a taboo subject, all too often people who have amazing relationships with their parents do not truly understand the way people who don’t feel. It isn’t often an easy decision or road to take to have an inactive relationship with the people you are supposed to have a close relationship with. It is never that easy. Telling me that I only have one Mother/Father doesn’t help. It really doesn’t help. Because I know, I only have the one. But please remember, when those words slip from your mouth, that actually these parents, the on and only parents also only have one of me. I’m not replaceable either.. Things should be different.

Which of course brings me to having a Mother’s Day minus a child, knowing exactly how it feels to find out how irreplaceable a child is.  I was lucky, if wanting the right word to have Mother’s Day with Melody, although the actual day itself I didn’t go in, I’d over done it, and there wasn’t much choice, I had a premature baby in hospital, there wasn’t much call for resting. I remember spending the day away from the hospital, making plans for the following year, how our lives would be different with an extra little one in the house. Of course I remain to this day wishing that I had ignored the nurses, ignored the advice I’d been given and spent the day with her, but I didn’t know that the following year I’d not only be a mother, a difficult daughter but also a bereaved mother.

Mother’s Day is different

It is mixed.

But the best bit for me, and I know there are many, many people who don’t get a best bit, is that I have the most amazing children, and awesome husband. They give me the most perfect Mother’s Day I could ever hope for. I get to be their Mum. Can’t ask for more than that. wp-1490471823791.jpg

The Wet Wipe Diaries

Barn Dance and Raffle Twenty

Final Barn Dance post, well until the follow up. I’m really looking forward to filling you in on how it went. Hopefully it’ll be good news! (Glass half empty kind of girl).

Here’s the other half of the prize list, I know I keep repeating myself, but we ARE really lucky to have collected so many. There are a couple in these collages that weren’t in the original viewings..yes we have even more, there are also a couple still to be collected tomorrow morning.

I cannot believe it is only tomorrow. Where has the time gone? Doesn’t seem like 5 minutes ago that we were going to cancel, (more like a month ago). Here we are.

We have raised so much awareness for Towards Tomorrow Together who support Little Daffodils, it has been wonderful to put a crack in the taboo, we really have only just scratched the service with how much we would like to change, particularly in the South West. This event will help fund what we’d like to achieve.

I have spent a lot of time speaking about Little Daffodils and what we do, who we are. So today in this final run up post I thought I would share the two babies behind the Little Daffodils’ Mamas. We’ve known each other since secondary school, but became really close after the birth of our babies who came after our losses..

It was October 2009 when Tracy and her family were met with the devastating words at a scan, that their baby’s heart had suddenly stopped. 

At 21 weeks Pregnant baby Beanie was born silently to Tracy, leaving the family heartbroken, departing the hospital empty handed, forever missing a little one. wp-1487886047105.png

I remember her story so well, much before my own. How sad I felt for her.

 

In February 2012 Julz became Mum to a micro preemie, born at just 26+6 because Mum was very poorly, weighing in at 670g she flew threw her early days with flying colours and was soon on the road to going home, with a discharge date all in hand. At 5 weeks old she contracted Sepsis in the NICU and sadly died on April 1st 2012. Never coming home. Leaving another family heartbroken. 

Melody

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I host another blog dedicated to her here

Thank you, these babies are so precious to us.

There are so many more families out there with similar stories, and some with not so similar but with the same outcome, that is missing babies.

We will help all we can locally to make sure noone is alone.

These are the final half of the prizes.

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Final round up.

Bell’s Whiskey

Sweet Bouquet

Body shop hamper

Perry’s Cider Voucher

Yeovil Town Football Club Tickets

Children’s Rainy Day Hamper

Silk Scarf

Evening Hangbag

Haynes Motor Museum Tickets

Angel Eyes Photography Vouchers

Wine

Mulled Wine

Thorntons

Sainsbury’s Voucher

Sarah Hodge Voucher

Chocolates

Trinket Box

Yeovil Railway Centre Ticket

Walk In Voucher

Fleet Air Arm Museum Voucher

Hair Inspirations Voucher

Pecorama Voucher

The Big Sheep Voucher.

These are some amazing prizes.

Cannot wait to see who wins, I hope they will be as pleased them as we have been obtaining them.

Raffle Tickets are now available just on the night, you have until 8pm to purchase WITH cash before we draw them.

Good Luck to Every One.

To everyone coming to the Barn Dance I will see you tomorrow night.

Thank you for purchasing tickets.

We will also be running a cake stall, with yummy homemade cakes some made by us including Dairy Free, also some donated by Tracy’s Mum, Julia and Gemma’s Mum Ros thank you Mums!

So once you’ve had your Ploughman’s (and hopefully won on the raffle), you can tuck into a delicious cake for pudding!

We’ll like to see all of these gone too..

Thank you to every one who has been reading and following.

See you on the other side..

The Wet Wipe Diaries

People Who Have Made The Barn Dance Happen.

Behind the scenes.

A short break from the raffle prize lists, to once again sharing the lovely people who are making this Charity Event happen.

I won’t lie, it hasn’t been easy. If I am brutally honest, there have been times where we have felt completely let down by the place we call home, and have had a cross word or two between us.

Tensions ran high, it has been stressful and at times disappointing.

We very nearly cancelled on a couple of occasions.

But we really are stronger than that, and for me (I can’t speak for the other ladies but I am sure they’ll agree), the awareness building for Little Daffodils has been of great importance, getting us known within the community. Letting people know what the Charity and the group is all about, by blogging rather than relying on other resources, we’ve been able to publicize the support in more detail.

As I have mentioned before 100% of the monies raised this coming Saturday will go towards helping families through the most darkest of times.

I’ve mentioned several times about group support, but there are things which would seem small to you, but huge to newly bereaved families.

Proper informative packages, leaflets with personalized information.

Example when we left the hospital, we didn’t get the Butterfly Box, we received leaflets and poems which are aimed at families who suffer miscarriages and stillbirth.

We were neither of those.

I won’t go into too much detail here, but there were so many things we weren’t told, so for me this is such an important thing I’d like to help change.

100% aftercare for ANYONE who has to leave the hospital with an empty car seat.

This is all a tiny drop in the ocean, but a step in the right direction to have more positive aftercare stories. The aftercare is an important part of our story.

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Okay, I said behind the scenes, but I like to talk and I wanted to squeeze in a tiny bit more about our cause, because that is why we are here, right?!

As I have mentioned previously, there have been a small amount of us organising the event, including some who have added some finishing touches.

Little things like, table decorations.

I won’t reveal just yet, but they’re perfect.

Hand created by Tracy (of Little Daffodils) Mother In Law – Maureen Coath.

She has a lovely eye for detail.

Small touch but really a huge input to take the stress away from us,whilst we deal with front line things.

So Thank You.

There will be photos, but for now no spoilers.

Photographs we’ll be having local photographer Dave Sibley.

Down to earth, genuine guy has offered his services for the evening,having used him for a family event,he certainly comes highly recommended.

Thank you.

Cannot forget our husbands, Raffle Prize collections in various surrounding areas, various publicity, listening to crazy ideas and rants.

Thank you for putting up with us.

As mentioned we ended up with various places helping to boost our raffle ticket sales, we’ve been incredibly grateful for this help.

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Dove Tails, who have not only hosted some tickets, but donated prizes too.

We are sad to learn of their closure, but hopefully it’ll be temporary.

Lisa of Baron’s Chard took some tickets off of our busy hands.

Also Eleos Cafe became host to raffle tickets.

The bunting in the photo was made by the lovely Sarah, to help with ticket sales..

Not captured in the slideshow is Sarah Jones of The Phoenix Hotel, as well as doing her own charity awareness she has taken time to promote our raffle tickets too.

Councillor Amanda Broom took some raffle tickets off our hands to help sell them too.

Thank you to each of those mentioned for what seems like tiny touches are huge things to us.

I know I have already mentioned them above.

But this Business really has gone above and beyond with their support not only for the event promotion, selling Barn Dance and Raffle Tickets,but for what we do as a local group.

They have let us have use of the rooms upstairs for our monthly meets, where we can provide a drink, even cake and a listening ear in a really relaxed location.

On top of this, they have offered the use of another of their rooms to hold an awareness session for local professionals.

We, I am incredibly touched by their generosity and support whilst we build ourselves up from the ground.

I, for one am incredibly thankful to them.

Unfortunately as with the other photos it is a recycled one, and haven’t been able to include all members, but he(Nat) won’t escape for Event Round up photos…

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This is Sarah and Emily, Emily along with Nat (who I’ve yet to capture), are usually there to serve drinks at our sessions.

Sarah made the lovely bunting which you can see beside her.

Always smiley and very friendly.

Eleos Cafe, who were also crowned best cafe in the South West,

what a wonderful thing to achieve.

We really are so grateful for the things they have helped us to do.

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Please stop by and grab a slice of cake and a drink.

(Did I mention they even do Allergy friendly cake?!)

Every one here and people who have donated will all get a mention on the night.

Plus in my round up blogs.

We just would like to go above and beyond for those who have for us.

I am going to mention our team again.

Julz Scott

Tracy Coath

Gemma Green

Sam Field.

From publicity to

raffle prize obtaining to

Band Booking

and Ticket Sales,

Food Preparation

to simply organising bales of straw to hopefully complete the look.

We’re looking forward to seeing the end result, enjoying a fun evening, with maybe a Pimms or two.

Will we do this again?

Are you Crazy?!